But I’m a NICE Sexist

Yes that’s right everyone, apparently our Federal Minister of Fisheries had decided to really put his foot in his mouth by making a sexist remark to a high school student. A rundown of events c/o CBC news;

“In Fredericton, MP and federal Fisheries Minister Keith Ashfield, invited the media to a staged family conversation about the budget with Roland and Gina Moreno and their two daughters.

It was an opportunity to highlight the government’s emphasis on training young people for jobs the economy needs, but things went awkwardly off-script at the start as Ashfield sampled baked goods and chatted with eldest daughter Grace Moreno, a local high school student leader.Grace, you’re a great cook,” Ashfield said. “You’re going to make a wonderful wife for somebody.”

I know, what an appalling thing to say to a young woman!! The unmitigated gall of this supposed learned man and exemplar of society!!

Thankfully we had two people decide to stand up to this man for his very large breach of public etiquette especially in this enlightened day and age. Political Analyst Lisa Kirbie was quoted as saying;

“In what universe is it acceptable to tell a young woman that she’s going to make someone a great wife one day,”

Agreed Lisa, what universe would THAT be? She’s not alone; we also have NDP Member of Parliament, Megan Leslie ALSO chiming in with;

“His comments were disrespectful. Come on…’Grace, you’re a great cook, you’re going to make a wonderful wife for somebody.’ In other words, there-there, stop planning for your future.”

Thankfully someone has seen this compliment for exactly what it is and bringing this to everyone’s attention! Mr. Ashfield tried to save face from his thoughtless blunder but simply deflected things instead;

“Mr. Speaker, obviously the opposition has little to find in fault in our budget…if this is the only type of question it could ask.”

Trying to escape the heat Mr. Ashfield? You must know by now that the federal budget is nothing compared to a sexist comment hidden under the thinly veiled guise as a compliment! It doesn’t matter that you may have been sincere and had no ulterior motives or plans when you uttered such domineering wickedness!! Don’t you know that marriage for women is oppression, how could you have said such a thing? Well, we have a little insight into what this man was thinking after his office sent this message to Yahoo! Canada News.

“I would like to thank the Moreno family for taking the time to discuss Canada’s Economic Action Plan 2013. The family’s insightful comments and feedback are valuable to me and our Government as we continue to build a strong and prosperous nation.

“My comments to Grace Moreno have been taken out of context and were simply meant to compliment her on her genuine hospitality.

“Ms. Moreno is a gifted and active young member of her high school and our greater community. And she has a great future ahead of her.

“I am proud of our youth and I appreciate the contributions that she and other youth continue to make to our community and country.”

Sorry, this message is too little, too late Mr. Ashfield. It appears more re-education is necessary in order to rid this world of these outdated opinions and stereotypes. However, I’d have more confidence that we could wash away this Sexism for good if there wasn’t a large portion of the commentariat agreeing that this was blown out of proportion. If anything, from their comments it seems people would like us to be less politically correct, gosh I wonder why.


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This post may be ill advised, but I’m tired of taking this crap at the moment. I was trying to find a brilliant post I had linked to and I found that it had been deleted.  Then while trying to find it, I found THIS!!!

Here’s the deal;

I’m NOT some friggin’ basement dweller that wishes he had a woman to save his life. I’m a happily married man with stepchildren who has seen the light and recognized the issues men have to deal with in Western Society. In this post, I will admit that I’m FAR from what many would consider an ‘Alpha Male’ as what I have done to get to this point would show that I’m what’s considered an evolutionary ‘dead end’.

That being said, I can see VERY clearly how that post I had linked to was completely ON POINT in terms of common sense. That post was deleted due to the fact that it was more of a headache than anything else, but it doesn’t change the fact that it was 100% true.  A career woman trying to find their one true love at the age of 46 has quite an uphill battle ahead of them. Impossible…maybe not, but it’s akin to trying to get on a pro sports team at the same age.

We can label it as ‘misogyny’ or we can realize that the truth of the matter and that it’s nothing but common sense!!! Even at the ‘low’ level that I seemingly exist at, I personally have found that women who I wouldn’t have had the guts to approach when I was younger, have approached me since I’ve aged and gotten married. (edit; this approach doesn’t work out so well for women though, sad but true!!)

This is life, not ageism, not misogyny, nothing but COMMON SENSE. If you wait to approach men after your high season has passed (15 – 25), then your feedback will act accordingly.  If you have a problem with this, then take it up with the Chairman of the board, that is if you can find Mother Nature’s secretary which no one as of yet has been able to accomplish!!!

Want a tip? Don’t try to find the sexiest dudes AFTER the sun has set on your best assets. If you don’t like this answer, don’t worry. Others will easily take your place!!!


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Pride or Prejudice?


A friend of mine had showed me this after a friend of his posted this on Facebook. I’m compelled to post this on the Phantom Tollbooth as I agree with the crux of this message.

 To any of my friends of color this is not a personal attack or meant to be offensive to you. However I do think this man has some valid points in what he says.

Why Can’t We Be Proud To Be White ?

I have been wondering about why Whites are racists, and no other
race is. Proud-to-be-white Michael Richards makes his point…

Michael Richards better known as Kramer from TVs Seinfeld does make a good point. This was his defense speech in court after making racial comments in his comedy act. He makes some very interesting points… Someone finally said it… How many are actually paying attention to this?

There are African Americans, Mexican Americans, Asian Americans, Arab Americans, etc. And then there are just Americans. You pass me
on the street and sneer in my direction. You call me ‘White boy,’
‘Cracker,’ ‘ Honkey,’ ‘Whitey,’ ‘Caveman’ … and that’s OK.

But when I call you, n****r, Kike, Towel head, Sand-n****r, Camel
Jockey, Beaner, Gook, or Chink … You call me a racist. You say
that whites commit a lot of violence against you… so why are the ghettos the most dangerous
places to live?

You have the United Negro College Fund. You have Martin Luther King Day. You have Black History Month. You have Cesar Chavez Day. You have Yom Hashoah. You have Ma’uled Al-Nabi. You have the NAACP.

You have BET… If we had WET (White Entertainment Television) we’d be racists. If we had a White Pride Day, you would call us racists. If we had White History Month, we’d be racists.

If we had any organization for only whites to ‘advance’ OUR lives
we’d be racists.

We have a Hispanic Chamber of Commerce, a Black Chamber of
Commerce, and then we just have the plain Chamber of Commerce. Wonder who pays for that??

A white woman could not be in the Miss Black American pageant,
but any color can be in the Miss America pageant.

If we had a college fund that only gave white students scholarships
…You know we’d be racists.

There are over 60 openly proclaimed Black Colleges in the US. Yet if there were ‘White colleges’ that would be a racist college.

In the Million Man March, you believed that you were marching for your race and rights. If we marched for our race and rights, you would call us racists.

You are proud to be black, brown, yellow and orange, and you’re
not afraid to announce it. But when we announce our white pride, you call us racists.

You rob us, carjack us, and shoot at us. But, when a white police officer shoots a black gang member or beats up a black drug-dealer running from the law and posing a threat to society, you call him a racist.

I am proud…But you call me a racist. Why is it that only whites
can be racists??

There is nothing improper about this e-mail…Let’s see which of
you are proud enough to send it on. I sadly don’t think many will.
That’s why we have lost most of OUR RIGHTS in this country.

We won’t stand up for ourselves!

BE PROUD TO BE WHITE ! It’s not a crime yet,
but getting real close!

Now here’s the deal everyone, I’m a Black man living in North America, but I posted this because it had to be said. Sure, one could state that all North Americans learn White History in school and therefore they don’t require a month of their own. In addition, we could point our fingers at ‘White Privilege’ as to why it is that Whites shouldn’t complain and ‘spread the wealth’ as it where.

However these arguments only confuse the situation at hand. Boil things down to their core and you have one simple thing; that when a White person complains about the very real injustice they face, they are derided for it.

Folks, this ISN’T right!!!

It seems to me that due to the fact that it was mostly White’s who settled North America and stood together to forge this continent, that they are being punished for it now. I say this because of the very same reason why I stand up for Men’s rights. Complaining about so-called ‘White Privilege’ makes White’s racist about as much as complaining about Feminism makes a man a misogynist. There are very real issues being faced here, we need to take a look and see what the deal is.

Folks, if you doubt me then I need you all to follow up with this little homework assignment. Do yourselves a favor and tally up every commercial, radio advert, and television show, which displays men in a negative light. Then, I need you to tally up the ones, which target White men specifically. You’d be surprised just how much White men are made to look like dunce caps due to their ‘White Privilege’. I’m not saying that racism doesn’t exist. Nor am I saying that other races don’t sometimes get the sh!t end of the stick. All I’m saying is that NO ONE is standing up for White People, and that isn’t right to say the least!!!

It’s high time we recognized this fact and called it like it was.


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The Unbalanced Life

Just encountered this very interesting article about Erin Callan, former CFO of Lehman Brothers. She had written an opinion piece in the New York Times about the work/life balance debate facing people as she reflected on her life. As a high level executive, her work became her life, and as a result other aspects had to take a backseat.

‘I don’t have children, so it might seem that my story lacks relevance to the work-life balance debate. Like everyone, though, I did have relationships — a spouse, friends and family — and none of them got the best version of me. They got what was left over.

A very harsh realization, and sadly she found this out too late. However, there is a quote in the article written by Andrew Hill, which caught, my eye that I believe could confuse the issue facing the choices of contemporary career seekers.

If employees lean in, only to keel over on to the boardroom table out of fatigue, something is wrong,” writes Andrew Hill in the Financial Times Monday, referencing the title of Sandberg’s new tome. “The book and Ms. Callan’s lament expose a problem with the system, not just with the people in it. Managers ought to be creating the conditions to get the best work from all staff, not simply to extract the most work from a determined few. If employees are driven, or drive themselves, to unproductive and unhappy extremes, the whole corporate economy suffers.

The crux of the issue; business is about making money. Employees are simply tools used by business in order to achieve this end. Whether we like it or not, the truth of the matter is that men are better at this particular role as they can be the breadwinners while the wife can stay at home if she chooses (if possible) or work a less stressful job. Thus giving her the time to actually rear a family if she desires. The question is how easy can businesses afford to make life for their employees in order to avoid creating more situations like Erin Callan’s? Perks such as extended leaves of absence, or flexible working hours come at a cost to the company, which we all know affects the bottom line.

Don’t get me wrong here; I’m not saying that there aren’t men who haven’t sacrificed their family life for the almighty dollar or that working men to death is acceptable. Nor am I implying that women shouldn’t strive for elite positions in business if that is their dream. Lastly, I’m also not in favor of overworking your employees simply to stay in the black. Yes there has to be a reasonable balance (there’s that word again) for even the most rudimentary business to get the best from their employees. The bottom line I wish to touch on here; while both men and women have to keep this work/life balance in mind, it’s women who have to be even more realistic about their goals and make their choices accordingly. I repeat myself often here but it’s in the hopes that people may eventually listen. A woman simply can’t forgo the finality of their positions in life. You simply can’t make up for lost time, once the window is closed; it often is closed for good.

We all know that many argue the unfairness of the situation. That men don’t have to make a huge choice between the boardroom and settling down to have a family, but during this debate, we lose sight of the truth. Arguing about the equality of a situation, which can’t be changed, is simply a waste of time. No, it isn’t fair that an up and coming female business elite will have to take time off from work in order to start a family, the reality is who precisely do you take that particular issue too?

Mother Nature tends to be a little steadfast, and I doubt anyone knows where her secretary is to set up a board meeting.

This issue isn’t one to be placed on the doorstop of Money Inc, but simply to realize the limitations both genders face as they strive for corporate success. The ugly reality is that when women approach their careers the way men do, they end up losing a lot more than they bargained for.

I have spent several years now living a different version of my life, where I try to apply my energy to my new husband, Anthony, and the people whom I love and care about. But I can’t make up for lost time. Most important, although I now have stepchildren, I missed having a child of my own. I am 47 years old, and Anthony and I have been trying in vitro fertilization for several years. We are still hoping.

The truth is that Erin Callan is much closer to menopause than motherhood and sadly, I’d wager that her ship has already sailed. So many contemporary women have hailed Erin as a hero by ascending the ladder of success. However this quote seems to sum up her position on the matter in a very stark and serious manner.

 Sometimes young women tell me they admire what I’ve done. As they see it, I worked hard for 20 years and can now spend the next 20 focused on other things. But that is not balance. I do not wish that for anyone.

Sadly, most won’t listen to her position, many being misinformed about aspects such as their fertility in addition to believing it won’t happen to them. I highly doubt Erin thought she would wind up there either.


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A Epidemic of Laryngitis?


c/o webmd.com

I’m sure everyone’s heard of Laryngitis, an illness which can render someone either completely mute, or leaving them sounding like Tone Loc whispering. Now, is it possible for someone to both have laryngitis while being able to speak? Came across an interesting quote from Crella in regards to a woman’s regretful choice, which really got me thinking about this very topic.

“‘Lost their “voices”? Is she fucking kidding? We are bombarded by their endless whinging about everything from imaginary workplace discrimination (sob) to how much they regret mismanaging their relationships (double plus sob).’

Yes, that ‘s a classic, isn’t it? Until recently Femisting’s home page had a comment about giving women a voice. When have they not had one!?”” (emphasis mine)

Very good question isn’t it? Don’t women have even more say now than they’ve ever had in history? In fact, one could say that they have much more than even men in this day and age, no? I have a hypothesis, that when contemporary women mean they wish to have a voice, they really mean they simply would like a choice.

Seems fair enough, and considering the distinct lack of choices women had in the past, it appears a reasonable enough request. For them to have more choices, for them to have a voice in regards to their own lives instead of being told what they can and can’t do. So what’s the issue now, why is it that Jill Bennett was so aggrieved about losing her voice during the end of her 10 year relationship?

In my opinion as it appears to me, it simply seems to be the frustration of having no say in the prior lack of commitment and later exit of her aggrieved boyfriend. So this really means that when some women wish to have a voice, or a choice, would much of the bellyaching they seem to be doing now is trying to have their cake and eat it too as Towgunner points out so eloquently?

Choices have consequences, use your voice and make your choices wisely. That is part of responsibility!!

At this point, however, this apparent ‘laryngitis epidemic’ seems to be happening while women are still largely controlling the mainstream media which is interesting to say the least. They have a voice, but still maintain that they don’t which I find very ironic considering where Feminism could eventually lead. You see, normally I don’t post too much about what exactly the end of feminism could look like. Mainly because my crystal ball is no less broken than anyone else’s’.  However, to any one of you who’s read the Misandry Bubble and understood TFH’s concepts, has anyone really considered what the end result for women truly could be?  Will it not be women virtually losing their voices completely?

As I’ve stated in the past, I speak in concepts; it may appear to be hyperbole, but that’s simply how I’ve learned to keep myself grounded (weird, I know). The main concepts affecting men and women’s relationships I see behind The Misandry Bubble finally bursting will be;

  1. Due to economic shortfall from men not manning up and starting families, many jobs will possibly be lost by both men and women
  1. Governments may have to scale back their many programs due to the lack of their previous tax base since younger men aren’t marrying in the same numbers to replace their outgoing counterparts

These two points are meant to show the possibility that Government backed security, which women sometimes require as a surrogate husband, will be greatly weakened in the future. In addition the comfy lifestyle  which we are all accustomed, will most likely come to an end. At this point, we need to consider what this means to many women during this time.

  1. Stable marriage minded men would be in a better position to pick a wife as they should be rare (and valuable) while marriage minded women will be plentiful, and unfortunately not as valuable
  1. Due to the devolvement of slut shaming and chastity, women will have little to no leverage in negotiating with a man to marry them and will have to accept far less WHILE giving far more than they would have in the past

This is the ugly truth that I believe we are headed for at the conclusion of TFH’s Misandry Bubble. Where marriage once more goes from a luxury some women feel entitled too, to a necessity that women will have to fight for or face severe consequences.

So, what sort of world does this ascribe to women? How many choices does one think women will have if (and yes it is a big if) the Misandry Bubble Blows up in this manner?  Technically speaking, women would STILL have the legal power they do now, but what about the choices available to them? Would the government even be able to enforce these rules in women’s favor?

At the end of the day, my personal belief is that the Misandry Bubble, which IS the logical conclusion of Feminism, will in actuality leave women far worse off than when the suffragettes marched years ago!! The world will have regressed to a point where Patriarchy would have saved women’s interests, but will have to face the world without chastity and men’s commitment.  If they think they have no voice now, just wait until we all have 2020 vision!!

For the record, I just wanted to add this. While I do want to see feminism burn to the ground for the hateful movement that it is, I’m really not looking forward to the eventual issues we all will have to face. It will be fun for no one, but women will suffer immensely because of this. I’m not looking forward to the most crushing of situations for women, which could be possible during this time. Having to find a suitor to marry simply to increase the odds of survival, yet having to compete for a small amount of stable men against a much larger amount of women. For men it could be brutal, for women; it could be catastrophic. Ladies and gentleman, this is what Patriarchy, while not perfect whatsoever, was trying to protect women and society FROM!! I don’t agree with everything the old ways of the past stood for and some changes would be necessary in the future, but the past could very well have been better than the dark future, which awaits us all.


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The Ring


c/o kingofrocks.com

Hello fellas, back in the saddle once more after having put out some fires on the home front. I’d once more like to thank those who haven’t removed me from their blogrolls and the visitors who’ve come by to check up on me.  A lot has changed in my absence, we’ve seen the exit of 7 man and CL from the Manosphere (good luck and Godspeed you two), and some chinks in the armor of almighty feminism. Looks like certain feminist activities have really made them look…not so good in the mainstream media. Well Kate, if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em, as your movement is looking less benevolent and more hateful all the time. Must deflect that bad press somehow…too bad people are catching on and you’re possibly loosing popularity.

However, the thing I wish to touch upon now is about the marriage landscape and getting men to say ‘I do’. You see, everyone knows full well that women are the gatekeepers of sex, nothing new to see here. However, just as both women and men have greatly underestimated the irreplaceable male contribution, it seems that many have forgotten a very key point. Men are the gatekeepers of commitment and we can choose to exercise this right however we see fit.

You see, due to the feminization of so many western women, some have deemed the skills, which men sought for in marriage ‘unnecessary’ and even oppressive. What so many have forgotten is that many men have always needed to be enticed into marriage. If a marriage minded man doesn’t find a woman enticing, there’s nothing stopping him from moving on to another one who might. Yes, a wife is entitled to half the assets in a committed relationship, but until a single man either puts a ring on it, or gets a woman pregnant, a single woman isn’t entitled to anything from anybody!!

Think about George Clooney for a sec, the man has been busy dating since his 1993 divorce. He dated Elisabetta Canalis in 2009, but when she pushed for marriage, he bounced. No commitment=no entitlement, and he had nothing stopping him from leaving her as technically he really wasn’t with her. This is as true for Clooney as it is for any man, and more are exercising this choice to the regret of many women.

The difficulty women and greater society is facing is that you can’t shame, force, or cajole men into marriage if they truly don’t wish it. Moreover, if they have no use of marrying a certain type of woman, there is nothing under the sun available to other parties to make them do so. I have some experience with this evident frustration as I mostly dated and then married interracial. The annoyance displayed by a few of the black women we encountered varied from passing irritation, to vocal opposition.  One instance actually had some women calling my girlfriend and I out, yes lads they can get that frustrated. The reality is that unless a man puts a ring on a woman’s finger, or knocks her up; she has no say in regards to his life. Those women that we had upset were simply realizing their lack of power in that regard, and all they could do was complain about it.

The early Patriarchy was designed to entice men, to marry, using chastity and example as leverage to get them to man up. Without this leverage, the truth is that women are left to their own devices as men either choose to opt out, or look for greener pastures. Gentleman, be prepared for situations like what I had encountered to rise as more men take foreign wives while their single countrywoman look on in defenseless disgust.

The main part that many women need to recognize is simply this; if you don’t want to ‘play by the rules’, worry not because someone else will!!


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Once more I have to apologize for the extended delay in my posting. I thank anyone who hasn’t dropped me from their blogrolls and also to the peeps who drop by every so often to read my feckless rhetoric. Yes I thought that I was back many moons ago, but things in my life have gotten very…complex as of late. I’ve been very remiss in blogging, in fact I haven’t even had the chance to get on many manopshere sites much less The Phantom Tollbooth. The one thing I can tell you is that I’m not leaving for good, and I’m itching to get back in the game. However, the truth is that I’m honestly not sure when I will be back. In the meantime I have no other choice but to go on hiatus until I can put out some fires around here.

Stay strong brothers, we are getting the word out there and I will be back for more @$$hole commentary in time.



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