So, it looks like I’m a misogynist now. My views on women have changed over the past few years and have been cemented since I began reading manosphere blogs regularly. I wasn’t always, at one point in time I simply believed that there where issues between women and men, and that if we just sat and hashed them out we could reach a consensus, possibly a mutually beneficial solution.
I wish that where true.
Here’s the sitch; as I have mentioned before on this blog, I have pretty serious ADHD (not the type which many women label their ‘hyper active’ boys either. I didn’t get diagnosed until 2007 and have been medicated by my own choice ever since.) and one of the many ways professionals have suggested to deal with the world is to look past convention and individual instructions and see the principles behind them, the concepts if you will. Since there are so many approaches in life one can choose to take to reach a certain outcome, a person with ADHD could get easily confused, by looking simply at the concepts, extraneous information can be omitted simplifying the world and how we can interact with it.
Interestingly enough, this is thankfully something I had been doing for a while so I try to look at the base concepts behind as many things as I can and this is what I believe about women. This new belief however, does have even me shaking my head sometimes. I post regularly on the Spearhead, and my diatribes can be very caustic toward women often. After so many years of viewing women as equals and considering them simply misunderstood, sometimes reading what I write or even typing what I believe has me stunned.
The patterns I see in regards to women are disturbing, but true nonetheless and sometimes I think that when I trot out my long comments (and usually they are very long) or even read the ones, which others compose, maybe we take these thoughts for granted. Maybe it’s just anger some people may assume, or consider it simply the frustration men are going through that’s talking, rage made into prose on the electric page powered by the internet.
The scary thing (for me anyway) is that at this juncture in my life, this is not just some crap to get upvotes on the Spearhead, or a method by which to ingratiate myself in with the Spearhead regulars. No, that would be easier to deal with for myself anyway. The truth is that after looking at the patterns repeatedly of women, not just in articles on the Spearhead, but after talking with many online and in real life it becomes crystal clear as to why our predecessors didn’t include them in arenas with high responsibility and significant consequences to their choices and men where trained to be the leaders in their houses and in society.
At their core;
Women will always choose the best course of action, which seems appropriate for them, and damn the rest
Women have very bad understanding of cause and effect
Women have little self-control and without significant social and financial consequences, they will destroy themselves and everything around them
Women are more emotionally driven, and satisfying them is an impossibility if left to their own devices
These aren’t just simply words I put up to say “Hey Manosphere, I’m one of you.” Sadly no, this is something that I have seen many times in the past and even now and realize, sadly I realize, that this is undoubtedly TRUE!!!
The final nail in the coffin for me was the Spearhead article, which stated the president of NOW was calling for a halt to the cutbacks in women’s social services, but increases to them, no matter if it bankrupts the economy in the process. I’m no accountant, but even I know that without the continued endeavors of men so they can provide the additional capital to be taxed, this is an impossibility!! However, it was also NOW who was part of the group who influenced Obama to re-divert some stimulus money from infrastructure to more women-centered professions.
There we have it, the metaphor of wanting toasted ice as has been seen before on the Manosphere. They want the jobs over men, but also want the support men’s jobs give them in regards to social services. This is why women aren’t cut out for leadership roles in the aggregate, short term thinking with little to no understanding of cause and effect is obviously dangerous and that is how women operate.
The biggest thing that men have to learn is that the idea of ‘talking’ to women so that they can understand men’s current plight is a lesson in futility. Women care only about how any situation or issue affects them and anything else is simply extraneous. Women will only do something for anyone else so long as it benefits them so this is why trying to convince women about the evils of feminism is like asking Superman to give up his powers. What’s in it for a woman to curtail feminism if they are benefiting from its disenfranchisement of men? The first time I ‘spoke’ to some womyn about this issue was on another blog years ago and it of course went about as well as any convo about feminism ever does, at least there was no shaming language.
However, I took stock of the situation, of the three women that I spoke to, one was married, the other divorced or possibly never married with a child, and the other was single but still young enough to find someone. The first two (who where the most vocal during the convo) already had everything they pretty much wanted, why would they have any issue with the current paradigm in society? Sure it disenfranchises men, but they’re safe so does it really matter? They didn’t come right out and say it, but by their responses this conclusion was easy to reach.
With my own dealings in real life on top of this the uncomfortable realization was undeniable, and I realized that women will not ally with men to end feminism’s reign, ever. The only time this will ever come to pass won’t even be when feminism no longer works for women anymore, it will be when being a supporter of feminism will be a very strong detriment to their well being. Anyone who has any understanding of cause and effect and has read The Misandry Bubble realizes that this means MRA numbers will only swell with ‘honest’ female membership when social collapse is ubiquitous.
At first I had suggested only listening to women who had shown themselves to be on par with men, treating any other woman like the overgrown child she was. However, it’s more than that now, (here we go, can’t even believe I’m writing this.) there is no reason to even speak to most women about MRA issues in reality. More often then not, you are simply wasting your time. The Hawaiian Libertarian posted a very good article on the Spearhead in regards to the Thinking Housewife, IMO, asking her to change her ludicrous position on men not marrying is like pushing a rope uphill.
She’s a woman, she is married and has everything she wants, however, she is indeed a thinking housewife and recognizes that men not marrying will have a very negative impact on society and civilization. That being said, she, like women in the aggregate, doesn’t wish to curtail any of the advantages, which she and women like her benefit from even if these same advantages are dangerous to men. Therefore, she offers men that honor is still a worthy reimbursement for losing your shirt in this world, which cannot be taken away from you.
Pretty easy thing to say when you will never be in a position to take that sort of risk.
Some on the Spearhead say she is evil, she’s not, (here we go, uh-oh) she is simply a woman and doing what it is that women do best. Take care of their own interests; even if it means undermining those same interests long term. No, there is no reason to write to TTH, or any other woman who isn’t a chinstrap for that matter about these issues, you may have a much better time with the mangina’s in their charge. As men, we tend not to be swayed too easily by our emotions and can comprehend cause and effect, but possibly the mangina’s need to be appreciated by women in charge stymies this aspect.
So here I am, part of a veritable woman-haters club. Do I hate women, absolutely not; I’m a married man for crying out loud. However, when I describe the issues facing men with my wife, at the very least she can see some of the issues with feminism, which is unlike what most NAW can even try to do. I do value women, we can’t have civilization without them, and their contributions to society are every bit as valuable as that of men. I honestly have no issue with women in politics, medicine, academics, or even law, but I would prefer that they get to these vaunted positions due to the merits of their own hard work and not due to some program which places them there just due to their gender.
I would also like to see that any woman who couldn’t measure up have to suffer the consequences for it, just like us men have to, and just like us men EXPECT to in the event that we don’t fit in. Above all else, I can now see why in the bible it says that men need to be the head of the house, because only men seem to have the critical thinking capabilities to make the hard decisions in life and increase the odds of navigating a family around the various issues life has to offer.
So I guess I’m a woman hater, and I ain’t going back.